Man Asks If He's the A-Hole for Suggesting Wife Find a New Job

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A man has sparked a debate online after he asked his wife to find another job. He works full time and struggles with bills, while his wife works a high-profile job that requires her to be away Friday to Sunday. The man has asked his wife to find another job to do during her free time since she doesn't do much during the day, but his wife refuses, saying that she is not wasting her day and already has a job she loves.

The man's family is also divided on the issue, with his parents agreeing with him and his sisters taking his wife's side. Who's in the wrong here? Click the link to read the full story and join the debate.

Balancing marriage and work: a discussion on weekend jobs

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Struggling husband wonders if wife should contribute more towards bills 🤔

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Man unsure if he's A-hole for asking wife about job 🤔

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Wife hates cooking, orders premade meals and takeaway. A-hole or not?

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Man suggests wife find new job, wife disagrees. Tension ensues. 💼

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Husband considers asking wife to find new job, sparks argument.

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Family divided over wife's job. Is he really an a**hole?

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Man suggests wife find new job - reasonable or a-hole move?

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Man questions if he's an a-hole for asking wife to find new job 🤔

A man is questioning if he is in the wrong for asking his wife to find a new job. The couple has been married for four years and split their bills 60-40, with the wife earning more due to her job working for a high-profile client.

However, the job requires her to be away from home from Friday to Sunday leaving her with free time during the week. The husband has asked her to find another job to fill her free time, but the wife insists that she needs to relax and that her job pays her enough to afford the lifestyle she wants.

The husband's frustration has caused a rift between the couple and has caused a divide between their families as well. While his parents agree with him, his sisters have taken the wife's side. Is the husband being unreasonable or is the wife being selfish?

Read on to find out what people think about the situation and to weigh in with your own opinion.

OP wants wife to suffer the same way he does. YTA 🤦

Tokimi- | Tokimi-

Commenter calls OP out for being jealous and petty 👀

Total_Eagle_7359 | Total_Eagle_7359

OP's suggestion backfires, commenters call him controlling and ungrateful 💸

RoyallyOakie | RoyallyOakie

Man gets called out for being an entitled a**hole by commenters.

JadineMakai | JadineMakai

Man wants wife to quit job, called YTA by commenters.

plantking9001 | plantking9001

Commenter calls out OP's ego for wanting wife to quit job 🤔

LadyRed919 | LadyRed919

Man is called out for being a jerk and should be thankful for a great wife who works and contributes to the household. 🙅‍♂️

Potential-Thought253 | Potential-Thought253

Commenter calls out OP for being unreasonable in relationship.

No-Understanding-776 | No-Understanding-776

User calls out OP for jealousy and being TA. 💥

CakeEatingRabbit | CakeEatingRabbit

Man wants wife to quit job she loves, YTA for being bitter

Hollifo | Hollifo

Man wants wife to struggle too instead of fixing own problems 💸👩‍👦. YTA

renaissance-Fartist | renaissance-Fartist

Man suggests wife get another job, called out for slacking. YTA 🤦‍♂️

Move_Weight | Move_Weight

Man gets called out for suggesting wife quit dream job 🙅‍♂️

ParsimoniousSalad | ParsimoniousSalad

Man suggests wife quit job and work more for less money, YTA

velkana | velkana

Man gets called out for wanting wife to struggle financially 😬

CarefulStructure8155 | CarefulStructure8155

Man criticized for complaining about wife's job, YTA. 🙄

IHaveSaidMyPiece | IHaveSaidMyPiece

Commenter criticizes conservative mindset, receives support from reply

foenixxfyre | foenixxfyre

Commenter calls out OP for being controlling and selfish 😠

mrscarter0904 | mrscarter0904

User calls out OP for being selfish and entitled 👀

Rose_Archway | Rose_Archway

Partner wants wife to quit job and be tired all the time 💼😴

dj1nni1 | dj1nni1

Man wants wife to be as miserable as him. YTA confirmed. 🙄

Monicawroteitbetter | Monicawroteitbetter

Commenter calls out husband's workaholic behavior, spouse defends

Fine_Following_2559 | Fine_Following_2559

Man gets called out for suggesting wife find new job 😬

[deleted] | [deleted]

Man gets called out for unfair treatment of wife 💔

TapeDeckSlick | TapeDeckSlick

Commenter calls OP 'YTA' and suggests jealousy as motive 🤔

icedtea4all | icedtea4all

Is it hate or stupidity? Commenter questions doubtful situation 🤔

No_Room_10604 | No_Room_10604

Commenter calls out OP for being controlling and unsupportive 🤨

happybanana134 | happybanana134

Spouse wants partner to quit job: Is YTA for asking?

Livid-Ad-2706 | Livid-Ad-2706

Commenter calls out OP for being the a**hole 💥

Move_Weight | Move_Weight

Partner's success threatens man's ego. YTA 🙄

Just_Wednesday100 | Just_Wednesday100

Man gets called out for asking wife to work more 🤔

WhiteJadedButterfly | WhiteJadedButterfly

Man gets called out for suggesting wife get a second job 😑

C_Majuscula | C_Majuscula

Commenter calls out man for being the a**hole for pressuring wife to work

wind-river7 | wind-river7

Mystery job, hidden income, and a frustrated husband 🤔

Rap-oleon_Bonaparte | Rap-oleon_Bonaparte

Man wants wife to suffer for his shortcomings? 🤔 AH alert

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Man wants wife to quit job, gets called out for being selfish 🙄

Baz_Ravish | Baz_Ravish

User calls out husband for suggesting wife get second job

whoknowswhatnow412 | whoknowswhatnow412

Marriage advice: prioritize each other's happiness 💓

YogurtclosetActual75 | YogurtclosetActual75

Commenter calls out OP for being jealous and controlling 🤨

-lover-of-books- | -lover-of-books-

Commenter calls out OP for valuing productivity over relaxation 🤔

Wrenigade14 | Wrenigade14

Man criticized for complaining about wife's job while relying on her.

Fing20 | Fing20

Commenter accuses OP of jealousy and resentment towards wife's success 💼

Otherwise-Wall-6950 | Otherwise-Wall-6950

Commenter calls out OP for being controlling and hypocritical.

PositivelySingleMom | PositivelySingleMom

Man wants wife to find a new job, YTA for being jealous 😒

ladygreyowl13 | ladygreyowl13

Spouse suggests second job for wife. Commenters say YTA. 😕

Shot_Construction455 | Shot_Construction455

Commenter calls out husband's jealousy towards wife's job.

Dresden_Mouse | Dresden_Mouse

Commenter calls out OP for being self-centered, YTA 🤦‍♂️

BTanalyst | BTanalyst

User accuses OP of jealousy and suggests finding new job.

Current-Suggestion20 | Current-Suggestion20

Man wants wife to quit job, gets called out for entitlement 🙄

cmogrady13 | cmogrady13

Commenter calls out OP as the a**hole for job suggestion 💼

Still_Ad8530 | Still_Ad8530

Marriage should be about sharing 100% each. YTA. 😕

Current_Can5949 | Current_Can5949