A 20-year-old girl is torn between taking care of her four young siblings and pursuing her own life. She often feels like a single mother, and now she wants to move in with a friend and get her own place. But her mom insists she stays, calling her selfish and entitled. Who's in the right here - should she put her own life on hold to take care of her family, or is it time for her to prioritize herself? Read on to find out more.
A 20-Year-Old Wants To Move Out And Stop Raising Her Siblings, But Her Mom Calls Her Selfish. Who's The A**Hole?
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Being the oldest of five siblings by eleven years, a 20-year-old girl feels like a single mother as she does the lion's share of child-rearing for her little siblings. She plans to move in with a friend and get a small flat together. However, her mother calls her selfish and says she can't move out as she "Needs" her, and she won't be able to cope alone. The girl feels worried sick about her siblings and how they will fare without her. She admits she lost it when her mother called her entitled and spoiled and told her little siblings how she's going to be leaving them all behind. She feels like sh*t and wonders if she is being selfish. Who's the a**hole here? Read on for the comments and reactions.
Escape the parentification and live your own life. NTA 🙌
RedditDK2 | RedditDK2
20-year-old not the a**hole for not wanting to parent siblings.
ComprehensiveState11 | ComprehensiveState11
Don't sacrifice your freedom for your siblings. NTA 🙌
SchnootFarms | SchnootFarms
Divorced mom calls daughter 'selfish' for wanting to move out. 😒
RealTexasJake | RealTexasJake
Breaking free from parentification. NTA 👏🏼
PineTreeMistress | PineTreeMistress
Breaking the cycle: Young woman chooses not to have kids.
Knitsanity | Knitsanity
NTA wants to move out, but mom calls her selfish 💁♀️
carolinediva | carolinediva
Commenter shames mother for neglecting her own child. 🤔
sindyisdatchu | sindyisdatchu
NTA. Commenter points out mother's unfair expectations of OP's parenting role.
AccessibleBeige | AccessibleBeige
Prioritizing yourself isn't selfish, it's necessary. 🙌
aperturecake | aperturecake
NTA. Moving out for the safety of her siblings.
Candid-Ear-4840 | Candid-Ear-4840
Take control of your life and don't let anyone hold you back! 🚀
riley125 | riley125
Commenter describes OP's mother as a 'human vending machine' 🤯
Anakerie | Anakerie
Live your life 🌟 Not the a**hole for wanting freedom.
Pinkie_Flamingo | Pinkie_Flamingo
Commenter advises calling social services to report child neglect/abuse ⚠️
LittleJessiePaper | LittleJessiePaper
Don't let your mom guilt-trip you, take charge of your life 🚀
[deleted] | [deleted]
Escape servitude to an irresponsible, manipulative AH mother 🏃♀️💨
flipadeedoo | flipadeedoo
An absent dad adds to the burden. 😔
devlin94 | devlin94
User shares struggles of raising siblings and working part-time. 😔
GilmourD | GilmourD
Move out, stay in touch - NTA for escaping manipulative mother 👏
LogNo2654 | LogNo2654
Taking responsibility for siblings shouldn't come at the cost of your dreams. 👏
Significant-Ad-9758 | Significant-Ad-9758
20-year-old forced to raise siblings, father absent. NTA.
Ginge-24 | Ginge-24
Don't put your life on hold for someone else's. 🙏
Playswithdollsstill | Playswithdollsstill
Leaving home to stop raising siblings, NTA. 💪
frubi86 | frubi86
You're NTA for wanting to move out and live your life 🙌
samthesuperman | samthesuperman
Mom calls her selfish for wanting to stop raising siblings? NTA!
DrMindbendersMonocle | DrMindbendersMonocle
Encouragement to prioritize self-care and pursue personal goals 🌟
SapphireFarmer | SapphireFarmer
Free nanny or responsible sibling? NTA wants freedom.
No-Recognition3929 | No-Recognition3929
Siblings' caregiver called selfish for wanting to move out 💔
uwantsomefuck | uwantsomefuck
Commenter suggests involving other family members to help unfit mother 😕
EwokCafe | EwokCafe
Be a responsible big sister, but don't forget yourself. NTA 👏
NoOutcome9333 | NoOutcome9333
Self-care is not selfish. NTA. 💜
HomelyHobbit | HomelyHobbit
Putting yourself first is not selfish, NTA 🙌
pnutbuttercups56 | pnutbuttercups56
Leaving siblings behind, NTA but call CPS for their safety 📲
crystallz2000 | crystallz2000
Understanding the difference between NSPCC and CPS in UK/USA 👀
ComprehensiveState11 | ComprehensiveState11
No one should be a third parent 👶. #NTA
Chance-Contract-1290 | Chance-Contract-1290
Putting yourself first is not selfish. 🙌 NTA.
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NTA wants to stop raising siblings, suggests calling CPS. 💪
Friendly_Tangelo1197 | Friendly_Tangelo1197
Empowerment! 🙌 Moving out to live your own life. #NTA
Julia070000 | Julia070000
Facing the dilemma of raising siblings vs. having a personal life. 🤔
jimsmythee | jimsmythee
Taking on parental responsibilities, but NTA for wanting independence 🙌
Algebralovr | Algebralovr
👍 You don't owe your siblings anything, NTA.
minihmb1984 | minihmb1984
Breaking free from the parentified role - a**hole-free edition 😅
krystyana420 | krystyana420
Advice for OP on moving out and safeguarding siblings. 🏡
n_jobz_ | n_jobz_
Encouraging words! 🙌 Don't let guilt hold you back. 💪
Isklar1993 | Isklar1993
Savage yet funny response to NTA comment thread 😂👌
Silent-Ferrets | Silent-Ferrets
Mother expects daughter to raise her siblings, she says no. NTA.
chelledees | chelledees
Standing up to an abusive parent and modeling healthy behavior. 🙌
whereugetcottoncandy | whereugetcottoncandy
Independence is not selfish. NTA for wanting to move out.
WhatWhoWhynow | WhatWhoWhynow
Leaving home? Don't forget to protect your younger siblings ❤️
Sad_Nefariousness730 | Sad_Nefariousness730
Leave the toxic environment behind and start a new life! 🙌
bcharbo | bcharbo
20-year-old seeks independence from mother's child-rearing, how?
bopperbopper | bopperbopper
Commenter sympathizes with OP's struggle against narcissistic mother.
yuffieisathief | yuffieisathief
Don't let your mom guilt trip you. NTA 👏
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Protecting younger siblings from parentification. 🙏
too_tired_for_this8 | too_tired_for_this8
A powerful story of sacrifice and survival, NTA, save yourself 👍
LavenderMarsh | LavenderMarsh
20-year-old being accused of being selfish for wanting to move out.
Critteranne666 | Critteranne666
Take control of your life 🚀. Don't let others bring you down. #NTA
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NTA. Moving out and stopping to raise your siblings. Tips included. 👍
Fluid_Response_6062 | Fluid_Response_6062
This commenter suggests a clever way to avoid raising siblings 👀👶
merchillio | merchillio
Take control of your life and move out. NTA.
Suspicious_Safety_45 | Suspicious_Safety_45
Go pursue your happiness, but still offer help for balance 😊
CheeckyChicken | CheeckyChicken
Commenter calls out irresponsible breeding, declares poster NTA 🙌
shrutiiiiiii | shrutiiiiiii
Leaving home to take care of yourself and siblings 👍💪
irikiris | irikiris
Escape the toxicity and start living for yourself 🚀💪
Bratchan | Bratchan
Escape the toxicity 🔥, leave and grow! 🌻
Crafty-Emotion4230 | Crafty-Emotion4230
Parentification is abusive. Mom needs to parent her kids.
preiapet_ | preiapet_
👏🏼 Standing up to toxic parenting. #NotTheA**hole
puppybutton | puppybutton
