Woman Refuses To Take Husband's Last Name, Gets Called A "Petty Feminist B*tch" By In-Laws

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A Belgian woman is facing backlash from her American in-laws for refusing to take her husband's last name after their wedding. Despite it being the law in Belgium, the woman's in-laws were outraged and called her a "petty feminist b*tch" during a recent Zoom call.

The situation escalated with the in-laws sending hateful messages, causing her fiancé to become conflicted. Read on to find out how the woman is dealing with this situation and whether she is truly in the wrong.

Intercultural couple faces backlash over traditional last name expectations.

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Meeting the in-laws for the first time in a new country

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Breaking tradition: Woman faces backlash for keeping her maiden name

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Breaking tradition: Woman faces backlash for keeping maiden name 💪

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Defying patriarchal norms sparks name-calling from in-laws 👊

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Standing up for my right to keep my maiden name 💪

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In-laws react aggressively when woman refuses to change name.

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Woman called a "petty feminist b*tch" for keeping her name 🙄

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Fiancé consoles bride-to-be after in-laws insult her name choice 💍

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Standing up for my last name caused a family feud 🙄

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Choosing your own name shouldn't lead to insults. NTA.

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Supportive community helps woman stand up to in-laws' insults ❤️

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Overcoming fear of confrontation due to past experiences 💪

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Standing up for herself against in-laws' sexist comments 💪

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Fiance stands up for woman called petty feminist by in-laws

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Setting boundaries with in-laws after name dispute 🙅‍♀️

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Bride-to-be hopes for in-laws' apologies after name-calling incident.

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Couple agrees on children's last name despite previous name conflict.

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Woman faces backlash for not taking husband's surname 💔

A woman's decision to keep her maiden name after marriage has sparked a heated debate with her future in-laws. The woman, who lives in Belgium, explained to her fiancé's family that it is illegal for women to take their husband's last name in her country. Despite this, his mother and father launched a vicious attack on her, with his father even resorting to name-calling.

The woman's parents have also urged her to change her name to avoid further conflict. While the fiancé is caught in the middle, he has promised to support his partner's decision. The incident has left the woman feeling shocked and upset, and she has turned to Reddit for advice.

Many have rallied behind her, but others have criticized her for not compromising to keep the peace. What do you think? Is it important for women to take their husband's last name, or should it be a personal choice? Share your thoughts below about the situation.

Fiance needs to step up and defend against in-laws' harassment 👊

anchovie_macncheese | anchovie_macncheese

Stand your ground and set boundaries with in-laws. 💪

AnnieJack | AnnieJack

Cutting toxic family members out? 🤔 NTA all the way!

BazTheBaptist | BazTheBaptist

NTA for not taking husband's last name, in-laws are close-minded.

EleanorRichmond | EleanorRichmond

In-laws are TA, but will fiancé stand up for OP? 🤔 NTA

ErictheViking4421 | ErictheViking4421

Support for keeping maiden name; in-laws' true colors exposed 😬

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Woman stands up against name-changing traditions, receives support from commenters 🙌

junglequeen88 | junglequeen88

Keeping your last name after marriage- cultural differences and personal choice.

SantaPachaMama | SantaPachaMama

Navigating cultural differences and in-law drama, NTA stands firm 💪

highwoodshady | highwoodshady

NTA for not taking husband's last name, in-laws being unreasonable 🙄

meangirl33 | meangirl33

Stand your ground, spouse needs to fully support your decision 💪

czechtheboxes | czechtheboxes

Husband's family resenting wife for living on another continent. NTA 👍

jmgolden33 | jmgolden33

Stand tall and don't give in to small-minded people 👍

MaryAnneOmalley | MaryAnneOmalley

Woman faces backlash for not taking husband's last name, seeks explanation

fakemonalisa | fakemonalisa

Stand up for yourself and don't let them bully you 💪

Iojpoutn | Iojpoutn

In-laws insult woman for not taking husband's name, but she's NTA 🎉

CakeisaDie | CakeisaDie

Stand up for yourself! 💪 Don't let their close-mindedness bring you down.

Edgy_Tenor | Edgy_Tenor

Taking a stand on a last name, and rightfully so! 💪

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NTA commenter receives witty agreement from reply. 🍫

Rebekah_Dawkins | Rebekah_Dawkins

User defends commenter and advises to stand up against disrespect.

glom4ever | glom4ever

Stand your ground and don't give in to bigoted in-laws 💪

shtoopee | shtoopee

Stand your ground and let your fiancé handle his family 💪

Ecstatic_Turnover_55 | Ecstatic_Turnover_55

Respectful name choices: NTA, in-laws name-calling unacceptable.

fuckyoureoblivious | fuckyoureoblivious

Your name is part of you, ignore the in-laws 🙄

Cute-geek | Cute-geek

Setting healthy boundaries is a must 💪

deadlyhausfrau | deadlyhausfrau

Supportive spouse turned doubtful after in-law's name-calling. 😢

Serafim91 | Serafim91

Standing up for yourself against sexist in-laws 💪🏼

GraveDancer40 | GraveDancer40

Stand your ground and let your husband handle his toxic family 💪👊

Classic-Tomatillo-64 | Classic-Tomatillo-64

Choosing not to take spouse's name sparks conversation on naming customs 💭

maudes-muse | maudes-muse

Choosing to keep or change your last name doesn't affect commitment.

Connie_Damico | Connie_Damico

Cultural differences clash with old-fashioned views 🤔

Ping- | Ping-

Stand your ground and don't let abusive in-laws control you. 💪

CoastalCerulean | CoastalCerulean

In-laws criticize woman for not taking husband's name, but it's just jealousy.

oregondude79 | oregondude79

Supportive reply advises going no-contact with xenophobic in-laws.

Abba_Zaba_ | Abba_Zaba_

NTA: Changing names is a pain, advised daughter not to.

valathel | valathel

Fiance's family calls her names for not taking his name. NTA.

drbeerologist | drbeerologist

Toxic in-laws? Block them and stand your ground 💪

gingiberiblue | gingiberiblue

Breaking stereotypes: Husband takes wife's last name, NTA wins!

AMooseintheHoose | AMooseintheHoose

Commenter defends OP and insults in-laws' cultural ignorance 😂

secondary_outrage | secondary_outrage

Breaking cultural norms: Support for wife's decision 🤝

DemonicAnjul | DemonicAnjul

Commenter defends NTA stance, in-laws' location adds humor 😂

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Breaking tradition: Woman's husband takes her last name instead

MNVixen | MNVixen

Keeping your last name shouldn't lessen your marriage. 🙅‍♀️

Cold-Release4985 | Cold-Release4985

Keeping your name? NTA! Stick to your guns! 👍

Ready-Society4136 | Ready-Society4136

Commenter defends against insulting cultural generalization, advises caution.

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Supportive comment gets unexpected negative reaction from parents.

Kraechz | Kraechz

Standing up for her beliefs against in-laws' xenophobia 🙌

Green_3100 | Green_3100

Stand your ground and make your fiancé defend you 💪

just_call_me_kitten | just_call_me_kitten

Love wins! A supportive spouse is all you need ❤️

DwightMcRamathorn | DwightMcRamathorn

Belgian law prevents spouse from taking husband's last name. NTA.

Laurylizzle | Laurylizzle

Support for not taking husband's last name against in-laws' bigotry 🙌

flyingfred1027 | flyingfred1027

Love is love, names don't matter! 🌈💕

NeonBlueConsulting | NeonBlueConsulting

Changing last name won't fix in-laws' racism 🤷‍♀️

emmahar | emmahar

Rejecting patriarchal traditions doesn't make someone a 'petty feminist b\*tch' ❌

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Keep your name and block the family! 💪

Helpful_Librarian_87 | Helpful_Librarian_87

NTA. Stand your ground and cut toxic in-laws out. 👍

reading_along | reading_along

Don't let anyone bully you into changing your name. 🚫👨‍👩‍👧‍👦

Carpefelem | Carpefelem

Breaking the norm: One woman's decision to keep her name.

SomeBadMasterpiece | SomeBadMasterpiece

Stand up for yourself and your name with a 👊. NTA

introverted_smallfry | introverted_smallfry

Empower yourself! 🙌 Stand up against family pressure. NTA

ninasimonerules | ninasimonerules

Breaking gender norms and marital expectations. 🚫👰

rightaaandwrong | rightaaandwrong

Keep your name, it's 2021. Fiancé needs to handle in-laws 🙄

LadyLoki312 | LadyLoki312

Block his ignorant family and rethink the wedding. 💍

Adept-One-819 | Adept-One-819