Father's unequal money distribution causes tension between wives

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A father has taken to Reddit's popular AITA forum to ask if he is in the wrong for giving his two older children a higher amount of money for their education, due to a promise he made with his late wife before her passing. The man explains that he couldn't afford to give all of his children the same amount, and his current wife is unhappy with the unequal distribution. The situation has caused tension in their marriage, with the father having doubts about his decision. Read on to find out more about this family dynamic and decide for yourself: is he the asshole?

Mixed family dynamics: Unequal inheritance causing tension 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦

otheraccountal | otheraccountal

Father's promise to first wife causes financial tension with second wife.

otheraccountal | otheraccountal

Father struggles to fulfill promises after wife's death

otheraccountal | otheraccountal

Generous father's unequal gift distribution causes no issues with current wife

otheraccountal | otheraccountal

Unequal money distribution causing tension between wives. 😕

otheraccountal | otheraccountal

Father's fair but unequal money distribution sparks family debate.

otheraccountal | otheraccountal

Resentful wife frustrated with unequal finances from deceased ex.

otheraccountal | otheraccountal

Unequal money distribution causes tension between wives in family 😨

otheraccountal | otheraccountal

Navigating tricky family dynamics after a spouse's death 💔

otheraccountal | otheraccountal

Tension arises after questioning wife's fear of the deceased father

otheraccountal | otheraccountal

Fairness concerns arise over unequal money distribution between children

otheraccountal | otheraccountal

Unequal money distribution sparks tension between wives. AITA verdict?

otheraccountal | otheraccountal

Unequal money distribution between step and biological children causes tension

A father is having second thoughts about his decision to give his biological children more money than his stepchildren for their education after his current wife found it unfair. The father has been fulfilling a promise to his deceased wife to deposit money for their children's education. Although the father lowered the amount to $450 for both children, it was still more than what he deposited for his current wife's children. When he decided to give his children $100 more, his current wife found it unfair and called the father's deceased wife his 'dead ex.' The father explained that he was fulfilling a promise to his deceased wife and that his younger children still had two parents to save up for them. However, he is now having doubts about his decision and is worried that his younger children might feel they are being treated unfairly. Read on for comments and reactions.

Fair contribution or unequal distribution? A debate on saving for kids.

No-Priority4155 | No-Priority4155

Contributing equally to kids' expenses, but is it fair? 🤔

hellahellagoodshit | hellahellagoodshit

Current wife competes with ghost of late wife for husband's attention

Alive_Mall8637 | Alive_Mall8637

Unequal money distribution causing tension between wives. YTA.

squirreltrap | squirreltrap

Father's promise causing financial tension and marital conflict. YTA.

CakeEatingRabbit | CakeEatingRabbit

Unequal money distribution between children causes tension between wives 🤨

_BigJuicy | _BigJuicy

Unequal money distribution causes tension between father's wives.

ImaGamerNoob | ImaGamerNoob

Father's unequal treatment of children sparks tension between wives.

Nathan_Poe | Nathan_Poe

Dodging the question intensifies suspicion 👀

Mandajolene123 | Mandajolene123

Resentment brewing? In-laws or in-loves, money can be tricky 🤔

SayerSong | SayerSong

YTA for unequal money distribution causing tension between wives 😒

kdog1591 | kdog1591

Father's unequal money distribution raises questions about fairness 🤔

yhaensch | yhaensch

Unfair money distribution causing tension between wives. YTA.

gsydhsbj | gsydhsbj

Important factors to consider when dividing finances and responsibilities 🤔

k8tied1 | k8tied1

Contributing more to children from first marriage causes tension. 🤔

Oldnewinbetween | Oldnewinbetween

Father's unequal money distribution causes marital tension. YTA.

Emotional-Coast5117 | Emotional-Coast5117

Money can't buy love, or fairness. YTA.

Sadbabytrashpanda | Sadbabytrashpanda

Unequal distribution causing resentment between children. 👎

Tigerboop | Tigerboop

When honesty goes wrong... 👀

Thanks4Liquidity | Thanks4Liquidity

Commenter suggests therapy for husband's unresolved trauma over deceased wife.

golden_hourrr | golden_hourrr

Equal money distribution important for all children's future. 💰

maybestomorrow | maybestomorrow

Money distribution NTA, but YTA for causing tension with ex-wife.

etchedchampion | etchedchampion

Unequal money distribution causing resentment. YTA 🤯

Ok_Path1734 | Ok_Path1734

Confusion over unequal money distribution between father and wives.

Justaroundtown | Justaroundtown

Straight to the point, YTA 👎

scout1982 | scout1982

Think about the kids' future and their feelings 😔

Professional_Use9984 | Professional_Use9984

Commenter calls out unfair treatment of second wife by widowed husband 🔥

No_Guarantee_6756 | No_Guarantee_6756

Equal treatment is crucial for a happy family. YTA 😒

FranchiseKicks | FranchiseKicks

Stepmom left out of financial responsibility for stepchildren, awkward family.

Amyarchy | Amyarchy

Unequal distribution causing tension between wives, YTA according to commenter

SorchaOelf | SorchaOelf

Unequal distribution of funds causes tension between wives and children

diagnosedwolf | diagnosedwolf

Unequal money distribution causes tension between wives, ESH verdict.

Trasl0 | Trasl0

Father's unequal distribution of money causes tension between wives. YTA.

Miserable_Smoke585 | Miserable_Smoke585

Unequal money distribution causes tension between wives - ESH.

Thediciplematt | Thediciplematt

Stepchildren and financial contributions causing tension between wives 🤔

whoTFknows_ | whoTFknows_

Equal distribution for all children. YTA.

Ok-Reporter-196 | Ok-Reporter-196

Deceased wife causing marital conflict 💔

unravelustogether | unravelustogether

Commenter admits to being married to someone else, deemed YTA.

simulet | simulet

Father's unequal money distribution causes tension between wives. Commenter calls him out for treating younger children as leftovers. YTA 👎

veni_vidi_dixi | veni_vidi_dixi

Stepkids and unequal distribution causing tension between wives. 🤔

freeadmins | freeadmins

Unequal money distribution causes tension between wives. ESH.

stealthdawg | stealthdawg

OP's unequal treatment of children causes resentment and tension.

allmykidsareheathens | allmykidsareheathens

Unfair money distribution causes tension between wives. YTA 😐

OkuyasuBestJobro | OkuyasuBestJobro

Unequal money distribution causes family tension, YTA 💸🤨

[deleted] | [deleted]

Commenter labels father as YTA without explanation.

Ladykaesong | Ladykaesong

Unequal money distribution causing tension and resentment among siblings 😡

herdingcats2020 | herdingcats2020

Commenter deems father the a**hole for unequal money distribution.

mushroomgirl | mushroomgirl

Commenter deems father the a**hole for unequal money distribution.

AstronautNo920 | AstronautNo920

Unequal money distribution causing rift and tension in family.

Zarifax4 | Zarifax4

Commenter calls out unequal money distribution, suggests equal contribution. 💰

Ladyughsalot1 | Ladyughsalot1

Simple solution, no money for anyone! 😅

Silent_Syd241 | Silent_Syd241

Unequal money distribution sparks debate over loyalty and fairness.

Additional_Way1346 | Additional_Way1346

Short and sweet: Someone's not getting the Father's Day gift.

whatsgoingonmam | whatsgoingonmam

Fair distribution suggestion for father's inheritance sparks thoughtful discussion ✅💭

Likeomgitscrystal | Likeomgitscrystal

Equal contributions to college funds to ease tensions between wives 💰

newbeginingshey | newbeginingshey

Father's unequal money distribution causes tension between wives. Commenter calls out favoritism.

deadninbed | deadninbed

Father's unequal money distribution causes tension between wives. Commenter calls out favoritism.

emccm | emccm

Fair distribution of money causing tension in blended family 🤔💰

Consistent-Ad4436 | Consistent-Ad4436

Father's favoritism causes tension among wives. YTA gets called out.

Ancient_Law_6969 | Ancient_Law_6969

Consider all factors and discuss with your wife for a fair solution 🤔💬

crabbyoldersister | crabbyoldersister

Man's unequal treatment of wives causes tension and judgement (YTA)

Swimming-Cheek-2098 | Swimming-Cheek-2098

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