Woman Finds Out Husband Ran Secret Background Check On Her Before Marriage

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A woman discovered that her husband had run a secret background check on her before they got married. She stumbled upon a folder on his laptop filled with reports on her, her family, and even two of her childhood friends.

Initially hurt, she grew angrier as she discovered things about her loved ones that she never knew about. When she confronted her husband, he tried to downplay it, but she exploded in front of his family. She ended up leaving and cutting their vacation short.

Now, she's asking if she's the a**hole for how she reacted in this situation. Read on to find out what happened and what people on Reddit are saying.

Secret background check before marriage? Trust issues much? 🤔

sherlockholmes498 | sherlockholmes498

Feeling left out on vacation leads to shocking discovery 😱

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🕵️‍♂️ Husband's secret background check on wife revealed in laptop folder

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🤔 Woman discovers husband's secret background check before marriage

sherlockholmes498 | sherlockholmes498

Her husband ran a secret background check on her before marriage 😱

sherlockholmes498 | sherlockholmes498

Husband's secret background check leads to family drama 🤐

sherlockholmes498 | sherlockholmes498

Wife discovers husband's secret background check and confronts him publicly.

sherlockholmes498 | sherlockholmes498

Uncomfortable sleeping arrangement with in-laws post marital secrets. 😬

sherlockholmes498 | sherlockholmes498

Cutting vacation short after finding out secret background check, AITA?

sherlockholmes498 | sherlockholmes498

🕵️‍♀️ Secret background check on spouse before marriage? 😲

Marriage is built on trust, but what happens when you find out your partner ran a secret background check on you and your family before tying the knot? This is what one woman recently discovered about her husband of three years.

While on vacation with his family, she stumbled upon a folder on his laptop containing reports on her, her family, and even her childhood friends. The initial hurt soon turned into anger as she uncovered things she never knew about her own loved ones. When she confronted her husband, he tried to downplay the severity of the situation, but she wasn't having it. The argument escalated to the point where she left and spent the night at a hotel.

Now, she's asking the internet if she's the a**hole in this situation for reacting the way she did. What do you think? Check out the comments section for some interesting perspectives and join the conversation.

NTA - Husband's secret background check on family and friends is a massive red flag 😱

bumblingenius | bumblingenius

NTA for freaking out about spouse's extensive stalky background check.

Spare-Article-396 | Spare-Article-396

Husband's family normalized invasive behavior, commenter not the a-hole.

JudgeJudAITA | JudgeJudAITA

Discovering husband's secret background checks: a major trust violation 👌

TheGingerCynic | TheGingerCynic

Is it legal to run a background check without consent? 💼💻

bwb888 | bwb888

Spouse secretly ran background checks on OP and family. NTA response.

Binky_kitty | Binky_kitty

Creepy husband runs secret background check on wife and friends 😬

Alarmed-Hamster-4047 | Alarmed-Hamster-4047

Finding out your spouse ran a secret background check? #NTA

ohyoushiksagoddess | ohyoushiksagoddess

Privacy breach! Husband's secret check on friends and family. NTA

Pharmacienne123 | Pharmacienne123

Red flag alert 🚩 Husband ran secret background check on wife and family.

Limbo_2072 | Limbo_2072

Rich family runs background check on potential in-laws. 🤔

Outside_Break | Outside_Break

Doing background checks on partners vs their family/friends: crossing the line?

GreyCici | GreyCici

Possible reasons for the secret background check on spouse discussed 🤔

AmITheFakeOne | AmITheFakeOne

Prenup in place, but secret background check on family? NTA.

TopaztheBigBoss | TopaztheBigBoss

Privacy invasion alert! 🚨 NTA for being upset.

LocalBrilliant5564 | LocalBrilliant5564

Spouse secretly ran a background check on partner before marriage 😳

deathbychips2 | deathbychips2

Trust is key in relationships. Secret background checks? Not cool. #NTA

CakeEatingRabbit | CakeEatingRabbit

Google is enough for dates but background check is too much 🕵️‍♀️🔍

lsp2005 | lsp2005

Curious commenter suggests husband's family may have something to hide 🤔

bigappleparade | bigappleparade

Setting boundaries is crucial in any relationship 🚫🙅‍♀️

Toolz01 | Toolz01

Discussion on the extent of the background check 🕵️‍♀️

GlitterSparkleDevine | GlitterSparkleDevine

Sassy advice to run background checks on the husband's family 👀

DarkElla30 | DarkElla30

Husband's deep background check pre-marriage: NTA, super invasive 🤨

Catbunny | Catbunny

Background checks before marriage: a necessary precaution or a breach of trust? 🤔

Fusion_power | Fusion_power

Spouse secretly ran background check before marriage, trust broken. 😕

MrsJonesy2012 | MrsJonesy2012

Curious about the reason for the background check? 🤔

caw81 | caw81

Wealthy family background checks are common. Not surprising, YTA. 💼

[deleted] | [deleted]

Background checks before marriage: reasonable or invasive? 🤔

Elegant-Equivalent86 | Elegant-Equivalent86

Background checks before marriage? Yay or nay? 🤔

Sk111W | Sk111W

Spouse forgot about secret folder, but why keep it? 🤔

internetpointsiguana | internetpointsiguana

Spouse ran a secret background check before marriage 😳 NTA for being upset, but have an honest conversation to figure out the motive 🔍

WinEquivalent4069 | WinEquivalent4069

Husband's secret background check: understandable or unacceptable? N A H.

remuliini | remuliini

Background checks before marriage: reasonable precaution or invasion of privacy?

MindlessNote3735 | MindlessNote3735

Smart move or invasion of privacy? 🤔

Striking-Fee5336 | Striking-Fee5336

Woman shares her experience of why she does background checks.

Glass_Status_5837 | Glass_Status_5837

Do background checks imply a family's wealth and security?

dtat720 | dtat720

Background checks before moving in together: necessary or invasive? 🤔

EnricoPalazz0 | EnricoPalazz0

👀 How many of us are being secretly investigated by our partners?

CompanyWonderful2552 | CompanyWonderful2552

Betrayal at its finest. 🤯 Husband runs secret background check on wife's friends too?

Cocoasneeze | Cocoasneeze